Run Away from Occasions of Temptation
We were taught in the spiritual class that whenever you are very serious about running away from temptation, or avoiding an act or evil, you must remove yourself from the occasion of the temptation. you know too well that you wife or girlfriend is not around and that her training will take 2 more weeks before she comes back and becomes all yours again, but instead of sitting down at home and talk with her all night on the phone, you decide to go clubbing alone. You have just gotten yourself to the object of temptation, and as such can never vow to overcome it, no matter what you profess in ethics. Whenever you lie to yourself that you will take care of it, you will always fail. The best thing is to run away from any occasion that will trigger infidelity. You might be tempted to go because that is a habit you have formed with your partner, but now that he or she is not there, never go.
Another thing that I see as the thing that will make you overcome almost all forms of temptations to have an affair is based on developing an unselfish attitude to life. It is always about us and this is very bad. A very good study of the reason why people cheat, have shown that more than majority of the people who cheat either through the sites for affairs like those here or in the physical realm do this because of the fact that they feel neglected by their husbands and that their emotions are not being taken care of. It is your partners own emotions that make your own emotions not to be taken care of. Why not try solving what the problem is with your partner’s emotions than trying to go and get your own emotions handled elsewhere. it might get to those days that you feel you have been in the habit of waiting in the sitting room till 11 pm every day, only for him to come back by 12 am and go straight to bed without having the strength to touch you. The next thing is that you start wondering whether this is the man you married and whether you are now married to a house. This is very natural, and why this is happening, you get to your own office and a new intern that just came in is looking at you in a very provocative manner that you start feeling very attractive once again, and the next week he comes in to submit a file and tells you that you look so attractive this morning. You will just relapse on the seat and tell yourself that this is what it should be, and this is how you partner should make you feel all the time. The only answer to this is for you to remove this selfish attitude to relationships and then consider the reason why your partner is doing this. Maybe he is pursing serious promotion in the office and therefore works extra hard. Sit down with him, and discuss about this with him. The best you can do is to map out other ways that he can still give you this attention without jeopardizing his dreams.
When I told one of my friends that I am looking for people’s opinion on how to avoid having an affair whenever they are tempted to do so, and the simple answer he gave me is that they should try harder. I tended to wave this off, but latter saw what he meant. You must not say, I have tried my best, let me do it. Continue trying. That is the only way you can avoid it. If you ever become complacent about it, it will defeat you out rightly, just as those sites for affairs do to anyone who signs up with them.
Talk to your Friend or the Couple Counselor
Another thing that will help you in no small measure to avoid the temptation to have affairs involves the other person out there. And in most occasions this will be your friend. Problem half shared is still problem half solved. This is the reason why you must make sure that whenever you have this problem, you should phone you close friend and talk to him or her about it. This will aid you in no small measure. Firstly because another person now knows and you know it’s no secret again, secondly because he or she will normally give you an advice not to go ahead. The second when it comes to peoples help is by seeing a marriage counselor. You might just call any of them and get very good and valuable advice from them on the situation.
Remember the Consequences
The next method that you can use to overcome the temptation of having an affair is by calling to mind the consequences it will have on you in the long run. Of course, whenever you are reading this article on how you can avoid the temptation to have an affair, it means that you still love your partner and wants the relationship to continue. If not, you would have filled and gotten divorce. So, what I want to tell you is that one thing you should call to mind whenever you want to have an affair is that it is capable of bringing an end to your marriage and taking the person you love away from your life forever.
Share your Feelings with your Partner
Do you know the best way and the most assured way you can overcome this temptation and avoid having sex? Tell your partner. This is a complete uphill task no matter the angle from which you see it. But whenever you are tempted and you explain this to you partner, you are gaining their confidence, and you are tying yourself to a moral obligation that is never easy to break, though some who are gullible will not understand it.